Dating for sex only
A promising relationship often begins with emails, progresses to phone calls, and then — after you’ve learned a little (or even a lot) about each other — culminates in a date.
“Someone who’s just interested in hooking up is probably not going to spend time getting to know you,” says Wodtke.
Chances are they’re hoping for sex if, “instead of maintaining good eye contact across the table, they’re staring at your chest or your other body parts,” notes relationship coach Toni Coleman, LCSW (
The best way to find out whether someone is into you just for the sex?
The landscape has changed too, with the advent of Internet dating, chat rooms, and concepts like “friends with benefits.” Whether you’re interested in casual sex or a serious relationship, it helps to know what your date is thinking.
We polled the relationship experts for clues that your date or date-to-be has only one thing in mind—and it’s not a long-term relationship.
Who you actually find: The stalker you didn't know you had. Who you want to find: An attractive, educated progressive with lofty career aspirations.
“This person may ask for a photo that shows your entire body, rather than being satisfied with a head shot,” observes Maryann Karinch, co-author of This should go without saying, but for the sake of those rusty souls who haven’t been on a date since 1979: Someone who talks sexy wants to have sex, whether it’s in emails, on the phone, or face-to-face. Also proceed with caution if your date is eager to share sexual histories or obsess on particular body parts, says relationship expert Nili Sachs (
Take note if your online prospect wants to meet you ASAP.
ou’re suddenly single after years of marriage, and you’re wondering how you will navigate the murky waters of modern dating—especially when it comes to sex.
You may discover that the rules have changed or, more to the point, there really are no rules.